VOWS, It is by our words that we express our thoughts and intents, and pledge ourselves to one another before God. When God talks of marriage he's not talking about a temporary bedroom agreement. When God makes two one-flesh it is until death, Vow or no vow, if it is a marriage in God's sight, it is till death. The reason for a vow is to state your intentions more strongly, binding yourself more firmly.
Numbers 30:2 If a man vow a vow unto the Lord, or swear an oath to bind his soul with a bond; he shall not break his word, he shall do according to all that proceeded out of his mouth. (Vows are different for daughters, wives, widows, and divorced women. See Numbers 30:3-16) ...and her father/husband hold his peace at her then all her vows shall stand... Have you ever thought about why the bride is given away by her father?
Deuteronomy 23: 21-23. When you vow a vow unto the Lord your God, you shall not slack to pay it: for the Lord thy God will surely require it of thee; and it would be sin in thee. But if you do not vow, it shall be no sin in thee. That which is gone out of your lips you shall keep and perform; even a freewill offering, according as you have vowed unto the Lord your God, which you have promised with thy mouth
Ecclesiastes 5: 4-6 When thou vowest a vow unto God, defer not to pay it; for he hath no pleasure in fools: pay that which thou hast vowed. Better is it that you not vow, than that you should vow and not pay. Suffer not thy mouth to cause thy flesh to sin; neither say thou before the angel, that it was an error: wherefore should God be angry at thy voice, and destroy the work of thy hands?
THIS IS A CONSIDERATION about vows. Matthew 5:33-37, James 1:12 But I (Jesus) say unto you, swear not at all, but let your communication be yes, yes: or no, no: for whatever is more than these comes of evil.
Eli did not do the right thing in 1Samuel 2:12-4:18 only speaking to his sons but not restraining them. Eli was their father and therefore he was responsible for their actions. What are we doing in instruction, training, and restraining our children?